You probably say a lot of “yes” to others.
Can you pick up anything on the way home? Yes.
Can you make me a snack, Mom? Yes.
Can you bring me this report by the end of the day? Yes.
But when was the last time you said “yes” to yourself? When was the last time you said “yes” because you really wanted or needed it – and only you … just because?
If it’s been a while (and probably has been – it’s a habit for all of us), we have a guest post for you! Right from her new book, Tell yourself so,, Molly Burford shares five ways to say “yes” to herself, starting NOW!
(And if you’re looking for more ways to boost your true confidence and feel more powerful, definitely take her book!)
Written by Molly Burford
Are you trying to feel more confident in your daily life? Perhaps you have begun to doubt yourself or have never felt capable of achieving your dream. Either way, here are five tips to help you exercise your life every day with confidence, excitement and courage. These few lessons offer direction, clarity, inspiration, and practice to tell yourself so.
What does it mean to say “yes” to yourself? Saying “yes” means believing in who you are and manifesting your life every day with your true “I”. It is the permission to live the life you want to live.
Take these lessons with an open heart and soul. You will need to learn the old lessons that made you doubt yourself in the first place. You will also need to set up harmful voices – from yourself or from others – that have told you that you should be everything and anything but yourself. That’s enough for you. You are more than enough. You already have all the strength not only to do what you want, but also what you need and what you are meant for. Sometimes you just need a little advice.
1. Work with what you have.
You are full of potential! You just need to touch the right parts of yourself and work with what you have. Not a morning person, but blooms in the afternoon? Use this to your advantage and whenever possible assign the most important meetings and tasks to the south and beyond. Hate running, but love hiking? Enough forcing yourself to go out on treadmill and find hiking trails for exercise. Whatever your situation, it’s just a matter of being realistic and self-aware. You’re fine. Really – you! The trick is to focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses.
2. Do more of what you don’t know how to do.
You can’t be in everything at once, and nothing strengthens confidence like learning a skill and working to improve it! It’s also a great way to practice a little self-discipline, which will come in handy if you face a more challenging task in the future. Whether it’s dancing, participating in home renovations or public performances, be kind to yourself and allow yourself to be awesome at something new. Exercise the mind of the novice!! To get the ball to ride, think about making a list of things you’re not quite capable of. Choose from this list one to do today.
3. Try daily positive statements.
Positive statements are a great way to be confident. If you repeatedly say something to yourself, you really will have no choice but to believe it! Go to the mirror every morning and repeat one of the positive confirmation suggestions below. You can even write these statements (or a few of your own ideas) on stickers and place them where you will see them regularly so that you are often reminded that you are an amazing person.
- I am worthy.
- I am smart and able to lead my life.
- I believe the universe has a back.
- I believe in myself.
- I am loved.
4. Be your best friend.
The person you spend the most time with is you. Every day – every minute – you are with yourself. And you also have the greatest opinion about how you feel. So why not become your best friend? Take yourself out to dinner; go for a single walk around the city; enjoy yourself as a close friend. And talk to yourself every day, just like with a friend. You wouldn’t humiliate a friend for their haircut, would you? Be kind to yourself! Enjoying positive conversations and spending quality time just with you are great ways to improve your relationship with yourself and cultivate greater gratitude for who you are.
5. Invest in yourself.
You are your biggest investment. You wake up with yourself in the morning and go to bed with yourself at night. Only you are responsible for yourself. And it’s pretty expansive! Why? Everything is up to you how you want to live. Everything you need is in your hands. Accept that responsibility and invest in yourself. Make an appointment with a doctor. Exercise. Eat right. Watch your emotional energy. You are your everything; never forget that.
Adapted from Tell yourself so from Molly Burford. Copyright © 2020 Simon & Schuster, Inc. Used with permission from publisher Adams Media, imprint of Simon & Schuster. All rights reserved.